Have you ever looked at a road? I mean really looked at it? None of them are straight lines. They may seem like we’re cruising along the open highway going 10 miles over the limit shooting straight and narrow, but really, if you were off in the distance looking at the highway you would see the twists and turns. And every road we take has them. There are bumps in the road and twists that come up that we never saw coming. There are forks in there road where decisions musts be made, we can’t just continue on straight and drive through the corn field. There are hills, some easy to get over and some steep and hard to climb but we keep pushing and we get over them to the other side and are happier for it. Because of the sheer determination and accomplishment it took to get up the hill. Sometimes there are detours that take us around the area we want to go, but we come to find out that the detour to us to a much better place; to the place we were meant to be. And sometimes, especially late at night when we don’t know where we are we get lost. We may have to turn back to where we got lost in the first place or we may decide to keep going further and see if we can find someone to help up us. But regardless, on the road of life, we are going to make mistakes. It’s okay to change your plans and decide to do something else or go somewhere else, but you have to keep moving forward. If a fallen tree is in the middle of the road, find a way to drive around it if you can’t move it. Obstacles don’t have to stop us, they have to be managed. And yes, this was a lot of road metaphors, but it doesn’t make them any less true. Just don’t be the guy who says “I know where I am”, stop and ask for directions.
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Tagged Accomplishment, Ask for Directions, Bumps in the Road, Decisions, Determination, Detours, Find Something Better, Fork in the Road, Get Lost, Make Mistakes, Move Forward, Obstacles, Turns, Twists
I’m big into self-help books. And the first time I was introduced to the Blanchard’s was through the book A Trip to the Beach: Living on Island Time in the Caribbean. It’s about the Blanchard’s leaving Vermont and moving to the Caribbean island of Anguilla to open a restaurant and all the adventures that happen to them. Then came the book Live What You Love: Notes from an Unusual Life. It’s all about pursuing your dreams, going after them with gusto. Finding your passion, pursing it, and living it to the fullest. And then finally to the book I’m currently reading, Changing Your Course: The 5-Step Guide to Getting What the Life You Want. And that 5-step guide uses the acronym D.R.E.A.M.
Decide what you what to change
Research the course you want to take
Evaluate how feasible your goals are
Act to make your plan real
Maintain your dream
The thing is there is this quote from their book, besides the DREAM acronym that really struck me. “Fear and lack of money are the primary excuses used for not making a change – but it is the lack of information that usually turns out to be the culprit.” I mean how crazy is that. So in my last post I said I was going to take my next two tax returns and go on the trip of a lifetime. Honestly, I have no idea how much money it will cost me to do it. So what I need to do is research. I have to figure out where I want to go. Obviously I’ll be staying at hostels and not eating at fancy restaurants, but I’ll be seeing things all over the world that I’ve always wanted to see and doing things that I’ve only dreamed of. So if all it takes is a little research then I can do that. What I’m hoping is that the total of my tax returns will come to at least $10,000. And if I can put away 10% of what I make from each paycheck on top of that I should have exactly what I should need.
So don’t let fear stop you. Don’t let lack of money stop you, it’s just a matter of putting away a portion of your check each pay period. And don’t let a lack of information stop you. Do your research.
I saw that in a book I read yesterday and it really hit me. I think we do this a lot. We just let our daily routines become a daily rut and just go through the motions without really thinking about what we’re doing. We do the same old same old and watch life pass us by instead of getting out there and living it for all it’s worth. And don’t be a bystander is just another way of saying Take a Leap of Faith. We have to break out of those shells, do the unexpected, try something new. Do you want to look back on your life filled with regrets for all the things you shoulda, woulda, coulda but didn’t? I don’t! I know it may not be easy, but sometimes you just have to go for it and believe that somehow, someway everything will work out in the end. So, I’m saving all my income tax refunds for the next 2 years. My youngest son will graduate high school shortly thereafter. When he does I’m grabbing my backpack, and an around the world ticket and taking a year off. Yeah, I know I’m in my early 40’s and will be one of the older hostel staying backpackers but so what? It’s something I’ve always wanted to do, and I’m doing it. No time will ever be the perfect time, so I’m just going for it. I know I have to wait until he’s out of high school, but then look out world, here I come. So what are you going to do so you will no longer be a bystander in your own life?
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Tagged Backpacking, Bystander, Coulda, Do the Unexpected, Go For it!, Live!, Regret, Routines, Shoulda, Try Something New, Woulda
So there has been a little time since my last post, and believe me it wasn’t because I didn’t want to post. Life got in the way as it usually does, but life kind of exploded on me. I was robbed at knife point and I’ve had to sell some stuff and pawn some stuff in order to pay bills. I’ve also been working tons of extra hours trying to make up for what happened.
Get this, I work from home doing customer service, so I need the internet and a home phone, and I have that service through Uverse. I tried to explain that I needed more time to pay their bill because of what happened and that I needed to have my service on, in order to work, so that I could pay them. They said if I didn’t pay them by the next day they would turn the service off no matter what. How does that make sense? If you turn my service off, I can’t work, so I can’t earn the money to pay you. So I had only one thing left to pawn. I saved everything to my exterior hard drive and pawned my computer for 1 1/2 weeks until my pay check came so I could pay to get it back. I also lost 1 1/2 weeks of pay that I really couldn’t afford to lose plus the money I lost paying to get the computer back.
My iPad is still pawned and I’m paying it off a little a month and miss it like crazy. I know, I know we get too attached to our gadgets and toys. It was just so easy to pick it up and use it quickly. And it was the perfect size. It was bigger than the iPhone and I didn’t need to keep making the screen bigger so I could read it or see it better.
And with all this going on I have been so distracted and yes a little bit lazy. But in my defense without an iPad or computer it is kinda hard to blog. So now that I have my computer back, let the posts begin again.
We all grew up wanting things. And I don’t mean that cool xbox game or that special Barbie we just had to have. I mean we had real wants and dreams as a kid. I knew as soon as I read Sir Arthur Conan Doyle’s books about far away places that I had the travel bug. I wanted to brave the amazon jungle, and find a new species and name it myself. I wanted to go to the deepest darkest parts of the jungle and meet tribes and stay with them and learn how they live so differently from us. I want to go on an African Safari and see all the animals, taking pictures as we drove by. I wanted to go on a dig in Egypt and discover some ancient tomb filled with historical treasures. I would dream about it; I would write about it. Then writing became my dream. Of course along the way were the naysayers. You can’t make any money doing that. Writing is okay for a hobby, I guess. You have to be super terrific to get a book published and what do you know about writing anyway? Only people like Stephen King make any money at it. What are you going to write a romance, that’s all girls write ya know.
I could’ve let those people stop me from doing what I wanted. Writing isn’t just a hobby for me. You know how I know? It’s something that I’m passionate about. It’s what I was meant to do. And I know this because I want to do it all the time now. I used to just do it when I had a chance but now when I’m not working I’m writing, or researching, or plotting, or editing. And it’s something I want to do on a Friday night rather than go out to a movie or a party or a bar with my friends. That’s how you know it’s something you were destined to do, what you were put on this earth for. Right now my creativity is at a peak of unspeakable means. I just had a flash at a Walmart and had to stop in the middle Walmart and write an entire children’s book on my phone. Now that is serious when you can’t let yourself leave Walmart, or even just go to your car. It was like this burst of inspiration that wouldn’t let me go and I had to get the whole thing out or I would lose it forever. Thank God it was a children’s book and not a longer work of fiction! But that’s how you know that this is who you were meant to be. And the travel? Who says I can’t do all those things and write about it? I don’t have to be some boring old travel writer. I can talk to people, talk to fellow travelers and people from those countries hear their stories and make up stories of my own. I can create fantastical stories of long forgotten places where miraculous things happened and adventures abound. And as for getting published, who cares about agents and publishers anymore. I can publish my own works on Kindle Amazon, and Barnes & Noble Nook, and many others. I just need to make sure they are ready and then get them out there. I have to do my own marketing which isn’t easy and I’ve got my work cut out for me, but the more books I write and the more I publish the more chances I have of people seeing what I’ve written. As far as my children’s books go, I’m trying to find an illustrator to work with me. I know I could probably do it but it will take a long time, time that I could be writing. So if you know an illustrator that would be willing to work something out, send them my way. We’re talking 13 books maybe more. But now you know how to tell what you were meant to do, something you would give up your Friday and Saturday nights for. What is that important for you?
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Tagged Be Adventurous, Creativity, Discover, Don't Give Up, Dreams, Fantastical, Flash of Inspiration, Friday night, Illustrate, Miraculous, Naysayers mean Nothing, Publish, Research, Travel Bug, Wants, What are you Passionate About?, Write
I can’t believe it I have all 3 of my cancer book covers done and ready to go. This makes me really excited. I’m doing a final re-read and edit with me and a friend through the weekend on all three books. I’ve decided what I’m doing to do is put them all up separately at $2.99 and then offer them as a bundle for $5.99. So I’ve got to find someone to format them all separately and then together as a group. I get paid Monday, so this will probably cost around $25 or so on Fiverr maybe a little more if I can get them to do mobi and epub. Hopefully no more than $35. But you have no idea how excited I am about this, being about to get 3 more books out there where people can buy them. I’ve got a another book, under a pen name that will go up soon, as well. Personally I love the book, and I’m not ashamed of anything in it; but I don’t want all questions that will come at me from my mom, so it’s easier to just use a pen name and those who know and love me will know it’s me anyway.
But regardless of how this is all taking shape and the fact that I’m having to seek help with making commercial-style covers, and format my books, I’m out there doing what I want to do. I’ve Taken My Leap Of Faith and now I just pray that the gods looks down on me favorably and that people buy up books like hotcakes and I keep having time to write. So get off your duff and take your own leap. It’s not as scary as it seems. :)
Who knew it was going to take this long just to get the edits redone on the book and get it back up correct? Well, it’s been up and incorrect for a while, but now it should be right. There are still places were the spacing is strange, and when I check it out before uploading, everything looks fine, so it must happen upon upload, but I don’t know how to get it to not do that. But I think all the spelling errors are gone now. Knock on wood. Of course, I say that, and then there will be one. I’m just glad that I’m done writing the second book and and now in the editing stage for it. I’ve tried to do some marketing, but I need reviews to do much more. So If you have gotten my book and read it, please leave a review for me. If not, it is much easier to find my book by my last name, Gonterman. It’s only $2.99 on Amazon and there are 2 more coming.
But I am still in limbo as far as the cancer books go. I have written 3 now. And I want to put them all up separately and as a set, but I’m having problems with getting the e-covers done, I’m waiting on two of them to be accomplished, and then I can get them all formatted and done all at once to put up together.
I am also waiting on another book to be formatted that I wrote under a pen name. It’s a way different and because of that I thought it best to be under a different name.
It feels like I get my part all done and then I’m stuck waiting on other people to help me. Lord knows I tried to format for Kindle my books myself, but couldn’t figure it out, even with the software and directions that I had for my Mac. But you figure when you pay someone to do it, it should get done and you should’t have to be constantly emailing trying to find out where your project is up to, because it was supposed to be completed two days or two weeks ago. I hate waiting. When my part is done I just want to see it through to the end, and see it published. I have 5 things completed and only 1 thing out there. It’s just kind of frustrating.