Has anyone ever told you it’s okay to take some “me” time? Maybe they have and maybe they haven’t. With the holidays, which is always hectic for me with extended family and kids going to 3 sets of grandparents it can be hard to get the times right. Plus there is work to fit it and when you are a server at a restaurant you don’t get time off for good behavior you get to work your ass off with no time off because it’s the holidays. And just when the holidays are over and the slow down begins I got a promotion. They asked me to train to be a supervisor, which is good it meant more money (sometimes), and lots more responsibility. So I feel like I haven’t slowed down at all. Now I’m working as a supervisor and as a server and I’m lucky to have a whole day off during the week to spend with the one kid that still lives at home, because most of the time if I do have time off he usually has to work at his job so we are like two ships passing in the night, more like roomies now then mother and son. It’s hard to find time for me let alone time to do stuff with him since all he wants to do is play Xbox online. But when I do get those precious days every once in a blue moon to myself I end up doing errands and cleaning the house and all the stuff that doesn’t get done because I’m working so much. Today I have a day off. And yes I have to go to the store because the cupboard is bare, but today I’m taking some me time for once. I’m pampering myself with a long soothing bubble bath, giving myself a mani/pedi, and catching up on my favorite tv shows. I deserve it. Everyone needs “me” time; time to recharge the batteries and do something special for themselves. Don’t forget that. Too bad my son isn’t off, I’d take him to a movie.
Just because you aren’t awesome at something doesn’t mean you can’t try it. If you want to try something new, Go For It! You will never be great the first time you do it. You will have to work at it to become better. But eventually you will become more proficient at it. But you will never know what you could have done if you never even give yourself the chance to get out of your comfort zone and try something new. Take a Leap of Faith. Let go of all your worries, let go of what other people will think of you, just take a deep breath and jump in with both feet. It is actually really freeing to try something new and realize that it wasn’t so bad after all and that it is okay to be who you really are in front of other people. And the possibilities are endless. How many things have you been putting off because you thought you might look too foolish or awkward? Start doing them!
Remember that trust exercise you had to do where you stood with your back facing everyone and you had to fall back and let them catch you? Well here is your chance to let the universe catch you. Trust that everything will work out for the best and it usually does. Just be open to what life has in store for you. Many opportunities could be just around the corner, you just have to reach out and grab hold.
Have you ever looked at a road? I mean really looked at it? None of them are straight lines. They may seem like we’re cruising along the open highway going 10 miles over the limit shooting straight and narrow, but really, if you were off in the distance looking at the highway you would see the twists and turns. And every road we take has them. There are bumps in the road and twists that come up that we never saw coming. There are forks in there road where decisions musts be made, we can’t just continue on straight and drive through the corn field. There are hills, some easy to get over and some steep and hard to climb but we keep pushing and we get over them to the other side and are happier for it. Because of the sheer determination and accomplishment it took to get up the hill. Sometimes there are detours that take us around the area we want to go, but we come to find out that the detour to us to a much better place; to the place we were meant to be. And sometimes, especially late at night when we don’t know where we are we get lost. We may have to turn back to where we got lost in the first place or we may decide to keep going further and see if we can find someone to help up us. But regardless, on the road of life, we are going to make mistakes. It’s okay to change your plans and decide to do something else or go somewhere else, but you have to keep moving forward. If a fallen tree is in the middle of the road, find a way to drive around it if you can’t move it. Obstacles don’t have to stop us, they have to be managed. And yes, this was a lot of road metaphors, but it doesn’t make them any less true. Just don’t be the guy who says “I know where I am”, stop and ask for directions.
Posted in Inspirational
Tagged Accomplishment, Ask for Directions, Bumps in the Road, Decisions, Determination, Detours, Find Something Better, Fork in the Road, Get Lost, Make Mistakes, Move Forward, Obstacles, Turns, Twists
I’m big into self-help books. And the first time I was introduced to the Blanchard’s was through the book A Trip to the Beach: Living on Island Time in the Caribbean. It’s about the Blanchard’s leaving Vermont and moving to the Caribbean island of Anguilla to open a restaurant and all the adventures that happen to them. Then came the book Live What You Love: Notes from an Unusual Life. It’s all about pursuing your dreams, going after them with gusto. Finding your passion, pursing it, and living it to the fullest. And then finally to the book I’m currently reading, Changing Your Course: The 5-Step Guide to Getting What the Life You Want. And that 5-step guide uses the acronym D.R.E.A.M.
Decide what you what to change
Research the course you want to take
Evaluate how feasible your goals are
Act to make your plan real
Maintain your dream
The thing is there is this quote from their book, besides the DREAM acronym that really struck me. “Fear and lack of money are the primary excuses used for not making a change – but it is the lack of information that usually turns out to be the culprit.” I mean how crazy is that. So in my last post I said I was going to take my next two tax returns and go on the trip of a lifetime. Honestly, I have no idea how much money it will cost me to do it. So what I need to do is research. I have to figure out where I want to go. Obviously I’ll be staying at hostels and not eating at fancy restaurants, but I’ll be seeing things all over the world that I’ve always wanted to see and doing things that I’ve only dreamed of. So if all it takes is a little research then I can do that. What I’m hoping is that the total of my tax returns will come to at least $10,000. And if I can put away 10% of what I make from each paycheck on top of that I should have exactly what I should need.
So don’t let fear stop you. Don’t let lack of money stop you, it’s just a matter of putting away a portion of your check each pay period. And don’t let a lack of information stop you. Do your research.
I saw that in a book I read yesterday and it really hit me. I think we do this a lot. We just let our daily routines become a daily rut and just go through the motions without really thinking about what we’re doing. We do the same old same old and watch life pass us by instead of getting out there and living it for all it’s worth. And don’t be a bystander is just another way of saying Take a Leap of Faith. We have to break out of those shells, do the unexpected, try something new. Do you want to look back on your life filled with regrets for all the things you shoulda, woulda, coulda but didn’t? I don’t! I know it may not be easy, but sometimes you just have to go for it and believe that somehow, someway everything will work out in the end. So, I’m saving all my income tax refunds for the next 2 years. My youngest son will graduate high school shortly thereafter. When he does I’m grabbing my backpack, and an around the world ticket and taking a year off. Yeah, I know I’m in my early 40’s and will be one of the older hostel staying backpackers but so what? It’s something I’ve always wanted to do, and I’m doing it. No time will ever be the perfect time, so I’m just going for it. I know I have to wait until he’s out of high school, but then look out world, here I come. So what are you going to do so you will no longer be a bystander in your own life?
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Tagged Backpacking, Bystander, Coulda, Do the Unexpected, Go For it!, Live!, Regret, Routines, Shoulda, Try Something New, Woulda
So there has been a little time since my last post, and believe me it wasn’t because I didn’t want to post. Life got in the way as it usually does, but life kind of exploded on me. I was robbed at knife point and I’ve had to sell some stuff and pawn some stuff in order to pay bills. I’ve also been working tons of extra hours trying to make up for what happened.
Get this, I work from home doing customer service, so I need the internet and a home phone, and I have that service through Uverse. I tried to explain that I needed more time to pay their bill because of what happened and that I needed to have my service on, in order to work, so that I could pay them. They said if I didn’t pay them by the next day they would turn the service off no matter what. How does that make sense? If you turn my service off, I can’t work, so I can’t earn the money to pay you. So I had only one thing left to pawn. I saved everything to my exterior hard drive and pawned my computer for 1 1/2 weeks until my pay check came so I could pay to get it back. I also lost 1 1/2 weeks of pay that I really couldn’t afford to lose plus the money I lost paying to get the computer back.
My iPad is still pawned and I’m paying it off a little a month and miss it like crazy. I know, I know we get too attached to our gadgets and toys. It was just so easy to pick it up and use it quickly. And it was the perfect size. It was bigger than the iPhone and I didn’t need to keep making the screen bigger so I could read it or see it better.
And with all this going on I have been so distracted and yes a little bit lazy. But in my defense without an iPad or computer it is kinda hard to blog. So now that I have my computer back, let the posts begin again.